Monday, December 31, 2007

c.h.a.n.g.e

The less fortunate seek for better luck.
The overweight determined to lose some pounds.
The looser promised themselves to fight harder.

It’s interesting to see how people’s strive are mostly root from their desire to change. To change themselves, to change their surroundings, to change their fates, even to change the people around them.

This applies to me too. It’s not that I’m complaining about life, instead I’m aware it’s so far from perfect there’s always room for improvement. Today being the end of 2007 and all I decided to set a couple of resolutions for 2008. Yes, only 2, as they already big projects by itself.

One is easy to do, just a matter of dedicating 20-30 mins of my time daily, the other one is more of a challenge as I myself am ridiculously clueless about what to do as the 1st step.

Sorry to be vague, but after 365 (or more?) I will report back whether I’ve succeeded or failed.

Wish me luck!

What are the things you want to change in your life? Check out this Benrik diary, it is supposed to change your life . They have unbelievable ideas, who knows some might help you. They may change your life, but not necessarily for the good. LOL.

Monday, December 24, 2007

'twas the night before Christmas, and here I am pondering this....

If our greatest need had been information, God would have sent us an educator
If our greatest need had been technology, God would have sent us a scientist
If our greatest need had been money, God would have sent us an economist
But since our greatest need was forgiveness, God sent us a Savior

Sunday, December 23, 2007

Riding across Pantura


What would you like to do if you pretty much have 10 days in hand with relatively low work demands? Primarily I was thinking about traveling, see the world. But you know what happens if you’re doing 1 thing too much you just want to get out of it? In my case I’ve been planning my boss’ trip to US that i think I’ve had enough dealing with travel agent, reservations and all that jazz. Enough. I think I will need my own travel planner in the future.

So back to 10 days in hand, I decided to just go back to my home town. Not the usual way, which is with jet and got there in 1.5 hrs, but the long way, overland.

I started contacting friends about possibilities there are, train or bus. I thought train would be best as it’s safer and less tiring. But as if God blessed my intention I found a better way to do it. You see a friend of mine decided to quit his job in Bali and go back for good to Jakarta. Since he got stuff to bring back in a car, he had to drive back. Car was even more attractive. I was really excited.

The four of us left Bali early morning (4 am) on Dec 20th, rode in the dark up north to Gilimanuk port. We got there around 6.30 and queue. Glad there wasn’t much queuing, because according to people I chatted with, on busy days people could queue for 3 hours! We only had to wait for 30 minutes and board the old rusty ferry and sailed away.

We reached Banyuwangi port the next hour (we slept in the car), I was even still sick from the night before. And from this port I tried to take pictures, but mind you, can’t expect much from riding in a car that went 80-100 km/hr in cloudy days. Just would like to record what I saw during our trip.

15.30 we reached Surabaya, and hooked up with V’s friend. Very lucky, his friend got spare rooms for us to stay. Met with A, O, H, B. Great group, good host. I was just grateful. We had yummm early supper at Bu Kris, the main dish were penyet (tempe, chicken and empal). Very good.

Dec 21 at 8 am we were back in the road, heading to Tegal. We got good advice which route to take, so we were very confident. V drove around 6 hours (with stops in gas station to fill up the tank and empty the bladders), and we reached Semarang.

Had late lunch at a place called Penang, ordered noodle dishes. Of course we couldn’t miss lunpia, so we had another stop to get a bite of those. It was really yummy. Another stop was souvenir shop, and we headed to Terboyo terminal as one of us were heading to Magelang and since we can’t divert too far from the northern road she’s willing to just got dropped off at Semarang and she would take a bus from there.

On the road again. V insisted to drove all the way to Tegal, although he’s driven for 3 hours and it was getting really late. I already suggested that we could just drove up to Pekalongan and look for another hotel. Well we agreed not to drive at night and it was raining hard, so the risk was getting bigger. But he insisted. Had dinner at a place called Pringjajar. It was funny place, had around 1000 ads along the road, already advertising from 30 km away. Big place, they even had magic entertainment. The waiter didn’t perform at our table though, maybe we should’ve asked.

We finally reached Tegal (thank God), it was almost 10 pm, so we just picked any hotel, paid for 1 room and added an extra bed. We were all too tired, but I really appreciate my friends who were willing to sleep on the lousy extra bed. I insisted they needed the straight bed for their back, especially we had another day to ride.

Dec 22 at 8 am we were all set to hit the road again. But V had to meet another friend, and they took us to breakfast. Heavy breakfast of soto Pekalongan (I didn’t really like it, as it has tauco on it), gule kambing and sate. Ughh.. I felt bloated, even though only had small bites to be polite.

V continued to drive, he sure got a lot of endurance. We hesitated whether to go straight to Jakarta or make another stop in Bandung. But after many considerations which mostly were not so good (long weekend means many cars from Jakarta), we decided to cancel Bandung.

We couldn’t find any place decent to had lunch so we decided to get it when we reached the city. That was a very long wait, especially when we reached the end of Cikampek toll (finally) it was pouring rain, and as we all know when it rains it means heavy traffic in Jakarta. Welcome back!!

We headed to Sudirman, stopped at BNI tower and had our long awaited lunch at Bakmi Permata. Warmed ourselves and freshened up. We were nearing the end of our journey. I don’t know about them, but I felt slightly sad. I hanged out with them for 3 days, getting to know them better and we just get along together, even in the tension of some moments. Everybody was willing; everybody was there for each other. I’m lucky to have them as friends.

I didn’t wish anything for anything for Christmas, but not only did I got my overland trip, I had great friends to share the experience with. Thanks, guys!


Sunday, December 16, 2007

hedonismos

The other day someone told me that someone thought I’m a hedonist. If it just came from some friend, I could care less. But this was from someone whose mind and thinking matters to me, which is my dad. So I started to see deeper. Am I really a hedonist?

So I look closer the way I live, and without making any strong defense I can’t understand why I was considered as one. Yes I ride with a car, but it’s only because Bali isn’t well equipped with public transportation. Every time I’m back in the city I’m glad to take the bus or ojek, which handles traffic better.

The only reason I could think of is because my dad doesn’t know me that well. So not trying to fight against his idea, I asked why he thought I’m a hedonist.

And yes, the truth revealed that he didn’t know me that well, although the way I live is right there to observe. Just to serve him better info I shared the way I spend my money. Apparently he’s been using his standard as an older person from an older generation. Never wanting to show off about it all, at least I had the chance to present myself the way it is and not letting him have big ideas that I’m living full pleasure lifestyle beyond what he taught us.

About that, I could argue what’s wrong with that if I can afford it? But I won’t, as it’s never the intention.

Reflect upon the defects of your character: thoroughly realize their evils and the transient pleasures they give you, and firmly will that you shall try your best not to yield to them the next time. - Helen P. Blavatsky

Monday, December 10, 2007

giving blog/gers a bad rep


If you aren’t going to say something directly to someone’s face, than don’t use online as an opportunity to say it. It is this sense of bravery that people get when they are anonymous that gives the blogosphere a bad reputation. Mena Trott, Times Online, 12-06-06.
Uhhm.. not only bloggers (incl. me) are narcissist, we're also cowards?
Well...
- I'm not selling anything here, and am not trying to make myself sound preppy
- I don't care if anybody's reading the posts
- and I definitely would say all the things I've write here or most probably I've had (as I'm not THAT anonymous and am not peppering anybody).

Saturday, December 1, 2007

On keeping score

I bet we all know a person (or friend?) who’s calculating. I have one. Acute calculating that at first her comments just puzzled me. Well it still does sometimes.

I don’t think I’m calculating, well I hope at least m y friend don’t think so. But this friend is just sooo strange that I think she put everything people say and do and put them in some accounting in her head. She even calculates with her hubby! According to another friend who’s more close to her, all expenses for the kids will be split by them.


When you’re dealing with this kind of friend can be frustrating, and eventually you start calculating yourself, at least with this person. You give something for the sake of giving, then some time in the future she give you something with a comment that basically says: hey, this is to make even what you gave me some time ago. We're even now.


Duh?!

But that’s not so bad. She made the worse comment about people, and they’re just so annoying to hear. You see one friend left the company, so we bought her a farewell gift. After less than a year this person got re-hired and my calculating friend said, “hey, don’t you think she should return the gift now that she’s back??” I was taken aback and said nothing, as I thought it was a very stupid thing to say. Ironically, not long it happened to her, she left and return in 3 months. Another friend who really hated her calculating attitude immediately said, “hey that cheap b---- is back, she should return the gift we gave her!” LOL, I couldn’t help not to laugh. Yeah, why not. If she’s using that measurement, guess that should apply to her as well, right?

This thing happened all the time. Doing favor, dinner parties, birthday gifts. On way of being nice yet punishing at the time there were 3 of us that always buy something together for her on her birthday. One of us will choose something and we’ll split among the 3. That must be annoying for her because that makes her owe each of us to invite to her birthday dinner, and to get each of us birthday presents on our birthdays.

I don’t really care though. She was on leave during mine, so I didn’t get any present from her, and she couldn’t come to my birthday dinner party. I don’t care if she thinks we’re even. To be honest, it would be hard for me to have the enthusiasm of getting her birthday present on her next birthday. Maybe I just forget about it and she can happily forget mine too.